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A New Parenting Course, Live This August
Four Thursday evenings on Zoom, beginning August 13
Jul 18
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Spiritual Ozempic
The one thing—and why the one thing is never as simple as it sounds.
Jul 4
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May 2026
The Example Is Not the Problem
The gap between us and the Awliyāʾ is not what we have been telling ourselves it is.
May 25
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Arbitrating Justice
When Legality Is Not Enough
May 1
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April 2026
Waiting Is Not Tawakkul
Why So Many Muslim Men Want Marriage and Won’t Move Toward It
Apr 26
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The Product We Became
What we optimized for and what it cost
Apr 11
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March 2026
Someone Else Should Do This
A letter to a mentee paralyzed by how much he wanted the work to be good
Mar 31
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I'm Glad It's Ending
A final Ramadan reflection on exhaustion, honest shortfall, and the mercy of what the month left behind.
Mar 19
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From Where I Never Expected
The door was never locked — a Ramadan reflection on rizq and the thing I was afraid to build.
Mar 7
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February 2026
Ramadan, where's the Barakah?
I am tired in a way that has nothing to do with food.
Feb 26
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Ruminations: Welcoming Ramadan Without Excitement
Notes on guarded hearts, the poverty of correctness alone, and seeking a tradition where love is not a rare visitor
Feb 19
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Scaffolding, Not Salvation
On formation without villages: what we ask from structure, and what it cannot give.
Feb 12
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