Khawatir
Subscribe
Sign in
Home
Notes
Chivalry
Marriage
Community
Ruminations
The Guest House
Counseling
Archive
About
Latest
Top
Discussions
Ruminations: Father-Son Conversations
The unseen inheritance we give our children: courage, honesty, and the strength to stay gentle.
Nov 15
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
12
3
2
October 2025
When Companionship Became a Community – Part 2
From first principles to floor plans: practicing suhba (companionship) here and now.
Oct 30
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
8
4
3
When Companionship Became a Community – Part 1
Suhba (companionship) as formation: the Prophetic architecture of belonging.
Oct 15
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
10
2
2
September 2025
Friendship: Deep, Not Wide
A story of nearly 20 years of friendship—imperfect, unlikely, and maybe, just maybe, for the sake of Allah.
Sep 30
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
19
3
4
The Trials of Transition: What We Leave, What We Carry
To leave is to lose, but also to trust that Allah writes more than we can see.
Sep 15
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
25
7
August 2025
The Chatbox Can Listen, But It Can’t Care
Why AI Can’t Replace the Sacred Bonds of Human Companionship
Aug 30
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
18
5
From Good to Great: Why You Can’t Bypass the First Step
“Bury your existence in the earth of obscurity, for whatever sprouts forth, without having first been buried, flowers imperfectly.” – IbnAtaillah…
Aug 15
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
18
5
5
July 2025
Cultivating Community: The Juice Is Worth the Squeeze
What we long for is real—connection, safety, meaning—but the fruit only grows where hearts show up and hands keep tending the tree.
Jul 30
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
14
3
Humility: A Non-Hajj Story
The disappointment of being rejected from performing Hajj with a beloved teacher forced me to explore humility in the company of another.
Jul 15
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
16
3
3
June 2025
Ruminations: Grief, Mentor Matrix, + Therapy
“When are you going to write again?” was the final question my therapist asked me, and I knew he got me.
Jun 23
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
9
1
April 2025
Trepidation
The house gleamed, but his heart trembled. What burden was hiding beneath the surface of a simple Suhba?
Published on The Guest House
•
Apr 24
Performing Love: Why Nice Guys Finish Last
Love without disciplined principles is just emotional indulgence dressed up as care.
Apr 16
•
Abdul-Malik Merchant
37
7
11
This site requires JavaScript to run correctly. Please
turn on JavaScript
or unblock scripts